Hi! I'm Shira, 24 and I'm ready to spit out my 2 cents about what engagement is all about.
What is engagement? It is a mini phase of which two soul mates take before they go further to the big day - marriage. Some may say "It's an important baby step before marriage as it borrows you some time to know each other and to prepare what is necessary, to really digest and think about the life ahead..and so on.." I say no.
"Ok la bertunang, boleh fikir masak-masak about our marriage"..What?? or..
"I kumpul duit masa bertunang untuk kahwin."
Can we not know our partners without getting engaged? Why do we need to depend on that fiance/fiancee status just to dig in on our partner's personale better? What if fate tells you a different ending, when one of you suddenly feels emotionally unattached to one another? "Kita putus tunang. I tak serasi dengan you." Wow! I'm awfully mesmerized!
Should you marry your soul partner, the plan is already at the tip of your fingers. If you are 100% sure and prepared about taking your partner into your life, why do you need to 'makan angin' on that shaky vague phase? Unless you're engaged for a short period of time, it's acceptable. Kot. hehe.
Kalau tak cukup duit, buat apa nak bertunang? Baik saving untuk kahwin kan. Jimat belanja. Orang sekarang bertunang pun over, dah macam akad nikah! lol! Seriously. Skip this part, and you will not need to suffer spending a big amount of money on the engagement dowries and the ring. Brilliant! :)
I'm sorry, but I honestly do not see the significance of engagement. It is very risky and pretty costly.
Good night! :)
